pregnancy scare--from the gURL boards

xx_irish_rose_xx asks, "OK, so I'm not sure if I am pregnant. I haven't taken a test yet and we always used a condom but my period is pretty late ... Has anyone ever gone through something like this? Should I tell him now I think I might be pregnant, or wait until I take a test? I'm really nervous because if I have to get an abortion I want him to come with me and I'm scared he'll hate me and I'll have to do it alone."

how long did you wait?--from the gURL boards

strwberrywine11 says, "How long did were you dating your bf (or gf) before you had sex? How old were you? Do you wish you waited longer?

I am almost 20 and have been dating my bf for about a month. We are both virgins. I want to wait at least 4 months before I sleep with him and he's okay with that. I just wanted some perspective on how that compares with other girls' experiences."

why are you pro-life/choice?--from the gURL boards

sweet-acid says, "I just thought it would be interesting to see your stance, and one reason why you are what you are.

I'm pro-choice for a ton of reasons, but my biggest one is that pregnancy is a life changing occurance and I don't think something so wonderful, or horrible, should be forced on you against your will because others think a fetus is more important than you."

are you embarrassed to buy condoms?--from the gURL boards

elizzyabeth1016 asks, "how does everyone deal with buying condoms anyway? I bought some the other day just to see what a few different ones entailed and of course some kid my age had to ring up my stuff and hit on me just because he saw the packets. "

multiple orgasms--from the gURL boards

nirvanagroupie asks, "Have you ever had multiple orgasms?"

do you fool around when you're on your period?--from the gURL boards

itisasecret says, "So, whenever I have my period I don't really want my boyfriend going in my pants ... He says he has no problem with it, it's just blood but I don't wear tampons, just pads so I that would be wierd to me. Even if I wore tampons I still think it would be wierd. How do you girls deal with fooling around during your period. Is it wierd that I think this?"

would you get an abortion?--from the gURL boards

wildflower_x says, "I would get an abortion, no second thoughts. I cannot physically carry a child, nor do I want to give birth to one and then put it in adoption or foster care with a family when I made the choice to have him/her in the first place. But honestly, if you had to face the facts, would you get one?"

cosmetic surgery for your vagina?!--from the gURL boards

x-xohmygosh says, "I watched this documentary a while a go about girls getting surgery down there if there lips are too big. And I really hate the way some people expect our genitals to look perfectly porno. Dont women have enough to worry about from the media when it comes to looks? ... I just think plastic surgery should stay away from our crotches. WDYT?"

how often do you have sex?--from the gURL message boards

vintage.love says, "My bf of 1.5 years and I only have sex about once a month, unless it's school holidays. We go to different schools and live about a 1/2 hr away from each other so we only see each other on weekends ... How often do you girls do it?"

does anal sex hurt?--from the gURL message boards

danzagrl9 says, "I heard about anal sex in heath class and I just wanna know your opinions on it. Does it really hurt?"

my failed attempts at masturbation: a gURL story

Ever try to masturbate with less than stellar results? You're not alone. Read about one gURL's failed attempts at masturbation.

masturbation: do you and your friends ever talk about it?

From the gURL message boards:

babygirlxx0 says, "I was just wondering if anyone spoke about masturbating with a friend? And how the conversation came up?

what defines "virginity"?

h1t5e4 says, "I don't believe in the whole 'losing your virginity' thing. I know that sounds weird, but let me explain. I don't think that by having any kind of sexual experience you lose something, I think you gain something. You gain that experience and learn about yourself and maybe get a stronger connection with that person. But you don't get rid of anything.

"It's all up to you. I think you could have sex with a guy that and still be a 'virgin' (or whatever you wanna call it) if it didn't mean anything to you, and you can be with a girl and not be a virgin."

the gURL guide to birth control

What's the difference between the pill, the patch and the nuva ring? Not sure? Check out our gURL guide to birth control and find out.

on having HPV--from the gURL message boards

psychobilly_kitten says, "I just got these warts and I'm guessing by looking at pictures online and stuff that I have HPV ... though I haven't gone to a gynecologist yet.

"I am very mad at myself for ever having unprotected sex. I'm glad that this can go away...thankfully, but it has definitely taught me a lesson.

"I can honestly say I am NEVER having unprotected sex again!!! In fact I don't plan on having sex again with anyone until I am in a serious relationship with someone I love. I've had enough messing around!!!!

"If any younger girls out there read this...please take something from it! Get the vaccine, use protection always, and don't trust guys!!!!"

what gURLs think about virginity

One gURL says, "I think that virginity and waiting for your future spouse is a gift that too many people give away without thinking about it. I mean, you are only a virgin once, right? I am not a prude, and I don't like to enforce my beliefs on other people but virginity is a win-win situation, you have NO chance of getting pregnant or STIs, you keep yourself and your emotions whole, you don't have relationships based on sex, and your spouse and you will share something that no one else in the world will ever have."

Read more from what gURLS think about virginity. Then leave a comment below on what you think.

how many is too many? (from the guRL message boards)

shaday21  says, "How many sexual partners do you think is a lot to have had?  2,3,4.....19? Lol. Really I want to know what you guys think."

i'm scared of penises--from the gURL message boards

d0do__xx says, "I'm not gay or bi or anything. I just don't think penises are cute? I don't know how to say it. Like they freak me out in a way....does anyone else feel like this? Or am I crazy."

how long does it take to know everything about sex? from the gURL message boards

Mzcourtney.py says, "When I read about sex I sometimes think I don't know as much about it as I should or feel like I am always learning something new about it.

"Is this something that other people feel about it or is it because I dont have a steady boyfriend?

"How long does it take to think you know a lot about it and not feel like it's another language?"

where did the word "ho" come from?

Find out by reading label it: ho, then leave a comment below to tell us what you think.

uneducated about sex--from the message boards

onedayrobotswillcryx says, "There's girls using two condoms at once, having sex on their period the first time or in a pool thinking they can't get pregnant that way...

"I tried to learn as much as I could about sex before I started doing anything sexual. It bothers me that girls are so uneducated but are doing sexual things anyways.

"Read!

"I've been reading these boards since 7th grade, I read books all the time, I research things a lot. People need to start knowing in advance what they're getting themselves into before making decisions without knowing what the h3ll they're doing!
X_X

"Does anyone agree with me?"

what gURLs think about friends with benefits

One gURL says, "Honestly, I think it's the dumbest thing to do. It's basically saying 'I'm using you just to get some action, but I can flirt and do whatever with other guys.'"

Read more from what gURLS think about friends with benefits.

how much do you know about the gyno?

In addition to making sure your vagina is healthy, your gynecologist will...?
a) examine your heart, lungs and breasts.
b) give you a lollipop.
c) make you watch a video of childbirth, similar to the one they show in biology class.
d) tell you stories about his/her time in the military.

what's up down there? (resources)

Looking for information or support? Check out our resource list all about what's up down there...

fast facts on erections

Did you know? Some slang terms for an erection are: boner, hard-on, woodie and stiffie. Erections begin to occur most often during puberty, but a boy can get an erection at any age--even while still in the uterus!

Find out more by reading fast facts: erections.

reasons to be a virgin: from the message boards

minni16 says, "I want to know why you girls are virgins??

Me:
--I don't want to regret it
--Scared of pregnacy even if I use protection
--It will probably hurt
--My boyfriend and I have only been going out for a month and a half."

what do guys think about kissing?

We asked and some guys answered. One guy said, "Bad kisses are overpowering. You can tell that the other person is not listening to you. Their tongue is all stiff, and it's like no, relax."

Check out what you think: kissing.

from the message boards: the patch

Jtopia says, "What's ur experience w/ the patch? Do u like it? Did u hate it? I go Tuesday to get a prescription for it. But I want to hear wat u guys think about it!"

history of kissing

When was the kiss "born"? And what did it mean if a couple kissed under the misteltoe in the 1400s? Find out in our history of kissing timeline.

being asexual--from the gURL message boards

r0flc0pterr0fb says, "I am asexual ... My problem is...I'm not sure how to tell people. Really, I don't care if people realize I'm asexual, because it's part of ME. Not them. Recently though, my friends are trying to push relationships and the like on me. I've tried repeatedly to get them to stop, but to no use. I've even tried to tell them I don't really care about sex, but they seem to refuse the thought of it.

"...It really hurts to have my friends, the people who should support me, telling me that I'm lying or imagining it or that it can't be real. I'm not even really sure why I'm posting this or telling anyone this, I mean, it doesn't seem like a big deal now that I'm typing it out. I just wish I had someone who would at least TRY to understand this and not say that it isn't real."

how much do you know about oral sex?

True or false: You can get pregnant from swallowing semen? Take the oral sex trivia quiz to find out!

what's sex ed like in your school?

Hermietastic says, "They basically scare you into not having sex by showing pics of STDs and crap. It's all religous too--IF YOU HAVE SEX BEFORE YOU'RE MARRIED YOU'LL DIE!!!! Yeah, but my school (it's public) is about as conservative as you can get."

on condoms & preventing STDs: from the gURL message boards

Ddblazin209 says, "Even if you are on birth control, you should still use condoms to protect yourself from STDs. Believe me, it can happen to anyone and, a lot of times, people get them from [a] partner who doesn't even know they have an STD. If you only have one partner you could get tested regularly and do it that way, but using condoms is the only way to prevent STDs."

on teenage sex: from the gURL message boards

"It's not teenage sex thats bad it's how SOME teenagers practice sex, unsafely etc. What adults need to realize is that lots of teenagers are capable of protecting themselves and respecting their bodies. Sex is a really natural and beautiful thing when it's done right; nothing to be against.

Also, I think the abstinence message that people seem to be keen to promote nowadays just confuses people and makes the problems of unsafe sex worse. People should spend less time being against teenage sex and more time being in favour of safe teenage sex; the fact is teenagers are horny and they're going to do it anyway so they may as well do it safely." --you.make.me.feel, a gURL member

...for real?

Check out this comic we're featuring on the homepage right now. It's called "For Real?" and it's all about how one boy learned about sex. It's pretty hilarious...

everything (well, almost) you ever wanted to know about hickeys

Have you ever come home after a hot date, only to discover a giant hickey on your neck? It happens to the best of us. Fortunately, there are ways to make hickeys less obvious:

"To get rid of a hickey, some people rub combs or other objects over them. There is some truth to this, as rubbing the skin can help increase blood circulation and decrease clotting. If you apply ice and pressure immediately after you receive a hickey, you can sometimes minimize the swelling and redness. "

To learn more about hickeys, get a sneak peek at fast facts: hickeys before it goes on the site tommorrow.

happy national condom day!

Don't worry, we're not forgetting the other national holiday that's happening today. We just wanted to share that today is also a day for raising awareness and education about condoms (hmm...coincidence?).

To celebrate, check out some condom related stuff we have on gURL. We've got...

• A condom comic
• Fast facts about condoms
• A History of birth control
• Help Me Heather answers a question about condoms