the sexes and sex drives

Question #1: Is it normal for me to crave sex with my boyfriend all the time?
Question #2: Why does it seem like guys want to have sex more than girls want to have sex?

Answer: Seeing these questions remind me that some longstanding gender stereotypes about sex are still alive and well!

Ladies--It’s perfectly normal for you to have a sex drive and want to get it on all the time. Fellas--You don’t get to lay claim to being the hornier sex. Girls dig doing it, too!

So why are we still stuck on the idea that “guys want to have sex more than girls want to have sex” or that it’s weird for girls to “crave” it? Here are three reasons:

1) Movies. From eighties hits like Porky’s and Sixteen Candles all the way to last year’s Superbad, generations of comedies about teens and sex have made it seem as if girls are prudes and guys are slaves to their penises.

2) Biology. We’re a little confused when it comes to the workings of the body. Yes, boys produce testosterone. And yes, testosterone can take a lot of credit for the sex drive. But here’s a newsflash: girls produce testosterone too. Just like with guys, this hormone also contributes to girls’ sex drives! But because a girl is a lot less likely to have a wet dream or a spontaneous math class erection, we assume they aren’t feeling the effects as strongly.

3) Society. It’s 2008 and a woman is a strong contender to be the next President of the United States, yet girls still learn that they should play hard to get and that they shouldn’t appear overly interested in sex. Though some of society’s views about women are loosening up, a whole lot of others remain firmly in the dark ages.

Some girls want to have sex all the time. Some are less interested. Just like guys. The difference between guys and girls is that girls are more likely than guys to feel the need to hide their sexual feelings.

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Comments

[Ali <3]

Whew. I'm always craving sex with my husband, I was scared I wasn't normal...

:)

[luckiiicharms]

well im 16 n i lost mine @ 15 to this one guy who i use to like but he had a gf at the time . so i havent had sex for like a year until like 3 or 4 weeks ago with this other boi i use to like n we were both craving for it so we just did it n i kind of made a mistake cuz i ask him did he have protection n he said no but we did it n e ways !! n i was so scared that i couldnt believe wat i did so it took me along tyme to have a menstrual until like 4 days ago i was so happy that i did but i'll never now im like now beating myself up for it cuz i havent tooken a pregancy test yet .

[me]

umm not lost my virginity yet....but yea hvin a lil sex drive........mahh bf is ready too n hu noes wats gonna happen n when is it gonna happn??? ohh n btw, rose miller's loss ov virginity seems wayyy romantic[lucky u].......

p.s. m 13 n a half [lol]

[paco]

well like i lost it at 13 im 14 now.. we now each other 4 3 years..i did it cuz i loved him and like yea. me and him are still great frinds and we dont bring it up a lot but sometimes its scary like he expects me 2 do things..its weird but i havent done anything really.but it dose hurt cuz like i really thought he loved me later i relized he never did. i dont no wat 2 do now 2 i dont even no if i love him...

[hannah]

im a vigin and im proude but not,even though im only 12 years old.and see my boyfriend is heavy set and im a fraid to kiss him casuse everyone wil make fun of me so just imagine what would happen if we had sex.i cant even begin to imagine.all though this may sound really weird coming from a 12 year old but i want to hav sex.but if i do my parents will kill me and i will be known as the school skank and no one will be my friend.but i think that i have fount the right guy and i think that i will lose my viginity to him but not to soon but soon enough.

[Lady.bby]

well i lost my virginity at 15 && now im a couple of months b4 my birthday..now im 17 and he is 20.. yes, i was and still am in love with this guy..he was 18 i was 15...i was so in love && ready when i lost it with him bkuz he waited till i was ready. i waited for about 1year and 2months...and we lasted into our relationship for 2 years. i was very nervous but knew he was the one for me. so i gave somehting very spaecial 2 a man i deeply loved...i do not regret it.. we do keep in touch.. its hard kuz it hurts 2 be his friend when we had 2 years filled with memmories but it was worth it && dont regret one bit of it... loose it with the right person, who deserves that precious thing of yours.. && make sure ur in love and he does not rush you. be wise and always use pertection.. kus u dont want kids or any stds... you know who you are mystery man... thanx 4 showing me the meaning of love && take kare -Lady.bby<3

[erica.]

okay so i'm 16 and i lost my virginity when i was 15 with a guy who i had known for almost a year. to be honest before meeting him i had to decided to be a virgin until marriage but i felt like i was ready. i had been close to having sex with other guys but i didn't go through with it but with this guy i just felt so comfortable with him that i would have rather had lost it to him than any of those other guys. now that i look at it i wish i could have waited until marriage but i know that it meant something to me..to this day i've had sex three times, two with that guy and once with another and i don't regret any of those times even though i rarely talk to them now. i learned to be more cautious about who to have sex with. currently i'm talking to a guy and we've talked about it, but we've decided to take it slow because we don't want to rush and mess what we have up.
all i have to say is make sure you're ready and choose carefully about who you want to have sex with.

[Trinity]

I'm thirteen and I really don't want anything to do with...that. No, I am not an immature girl who is still convinced that all males have cooties. I just don't see myself even thinking about dating anyone ever. If I do, I am going to be much older. It's not for me, but I don't care about 11-yr. olds loosing their virginity. Sure, it is disturbing, It goes againts my own policy, yes. Do I think it is ridiculous for them to even date? Yes (Hello, you date because you consider the possibility of marriage...). But hey, I've never been in thier situation.

[flyingh3art]

I'm a virgin, and i'm neither proud nor ashamed about it. I'm 16. I completely respect ppl having lost their virginity (or not) as long as it was a good experience and as long as you were ready. Keep safe!! ^^

[Haley]

I lost my virginity when I was 14. I was dating this guy for 3 weeks but we had known each other for a while. He was 5 years older and I guess you could say that there was a big ass age difference and maybe that’s why things didn’t work out. After we had sex he expected more and more often. Some days I even had to say I was on my period to get out of having sex. I guess you could say he wasn’t the right guys to loose my virginity to because he was so controlling and demanding. I was more in love with being loved then actually loving the person. I won’t say that I regret it because to this day I don’t, I just wish he treated me better, because I really did love him and I would love to be with him but times have changed and him and I are both different people now and even though we will always have that chemistry, we would never work. Late at night I always ask myself if he was the biggest love of my life or a disappointment in my life.

[jaelie]

i am 14 and have had sex just last night and now he guy dosent act the same and it sucks because i really like him

[katie]

I am 14 and so far from losing my virginity. I've never been kissed and never had a boyfriend.

[Nicole]

I don't know how this all wandered from sex drive to virginity, but I'm going to get back on track and say that I have a stronger sex drive than my bf. Obviously, we defy the stereotype. Luckily for me he's not too hard to persuade and doesn't mind being persuaded.
It's a really stupid generalization to say that it's abnormal for a girl to have a strong sex drive, and it doesn't make her a slut or anything.

[Laylia]

I got pregnent the summer going into senior year at 17 the father of the baby abused me i lost my baby at 4 months pregnent now a year and 4 months later im pregnent again and I have genital herpes by the same guy im just soo messed up im more mad at having an std then the fact im having a baby just be carefull make sure you use a condom every time!!

[<3]

im 13 and im a virgin..i alwaysz get horny and wet and bassicly all you have to do is masterbate it dont do no harm and all u people out there hu think its discusting for a 13 yr old girl to think about this i really dont care tbh its not up to you wen people lose there virgnaty and if they want to have sex they go go ahead and do it just as long as they can face the consiquences..me and my boyfriend have beengoing out for a month now with i think is quiet long and we are planning on havein sex this weekend so ermm yhh goog luck to me =)

and if yall are hatein on me i dont care

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[casey]

Ech! I personally am against premarital sex. It makes me so sad to hear that girls who just started having their period are having sex. I agree with this girl on youtube called kicesie. If you are a teen who is thinking about having sex you should really watch her videos on virginity.

[happyoungvirgin]

I think it is totally and completely stupid for 13 year olds to lose their virginity. i'm 13 and I cannot stand the idea of premarital sex. I don't care if people think I'm a holy roller or amish or something like that- but sex should be something special you share with the one you love like you've never loved before. And I know the chance is small, but what would you do if you were 13 and you got pregnant? I know people say they really love the person they lose their virginity to, but at 13 I don't believe guys are so much capable of love as they are to being controlled by their genitalia. Girls may think its special, but I believe that deep in their hearts they will regret it eventually (when they're 12, 13, 14)

[CH94]

Hey Guys,

I' 14 now and have NEVER been pressured into sex, my boyfriend asked to 'frig' me once or twice but I declined, he totally understood and if a guy EVER asks you to do summink ur not comfortable with just say no, he should understand, if he goes ape-shit then he probably isn't worth it!

xxProud Virginxx

[anonymous]

okaay the comment from 123 is wrong. when i was 12 (im 13) i knew at least 8 13yr olds that werent virgins and im pretty sure 5 in my grade arent either. but everybody is different and have it at different times. but like if i would do anything when i get into my teen years its not gonna be all the way.. maybe upstairs stuff and like not both people exposed but most girls get ideas from the internet or sibblings. i would know.

[Brittany]

I'm 18 and I have made tons of mistakes...I come from a small town were there is nothing to do unless you wanna drive an hour just to don something. In my town everyone knows everybody and everyones business....In my town its partys every weekend with tons or morning regrets. Myself having severl. Ya, sex is great but really it;s ment for lovers....most of us young girls think we feel love but it's just lust or a crush. I have had enough partners in my day most because I was drunk. I'm not saying that I regret them but if I could go back and make different choices I would. Girls you have all the time in the world to have sex just don't let people pressure you because in the long run you willl be the better person. I met this great guy...were working on a long relationship I tell him everything and I think I might love him but as of now I just completly adore him. But everyday I always think that he doesn't really know all the truth about me.....I've lied to him about the number of guys I've been with because I'm scared I will lose him. I'm not saying that my number of guys is alot but its enough to not want to add anymore to it except him....just make sure all of you think it thru first because living a lie like me is no fun when you have someone that you care so much about<3

[callalilli013]

I am in college- I have never had sex! I had situations but I declined out of fear of my crazy mother and my late gramma! My uncle who would probably kill a guy for coming that close to me! LOL! Love my family to pieces. I never had a real boyfriend....yet. But my family has horny genes-I am scared that once I start I may not be able to stop! I like the feeling of a guy touching all the right spots but not quite ready for "going all the way"! Just kidding about the starting and not stopping sex thing! Not kidding about the horny genes! But that 20 yr old person needs to chill the heck out! Most of my childhood friends were having sex waaayyy back in middle school! I never judged-except to tell them to make sure they didn't get any diseases and pregnant! I love my bestfriend whom I like to call a man-whore he is a girl magnent-I learned alot about sex from him--never had it with him. Wish I Kinda did alot girls I knew were buzzin' and barely could talk after being with him! Anyways back to virginity--wait until YOU ARE READY! Even though 12-13-14-is a lil young as long as they're responsible for their bodies-every aspect mentally and physically. Sometimes girls sex drives be going at mach speed! I know the feeling. Be safe girls and boys! Love~Peace~Happiness~&~Safe-Great Sex!!!

[Brittany]

I'm 18 and not a virgin. I lost mine when i was 16. Honestly, I wasn't ready when I lost it. I was at a friend's house who was having a party and everyone was drinking. At the time i was in a relationship with my boyfriend, who i was going out with for a year. I remember some of it, but not all of it. The only thing I regret was losing it while i was drunk. I'm glad it was with him though. We are still together going on 3 years in december.

[dee]

I'm 14 and jost lost my virginity this year to my wonderful boyfriend. We met in February and in april he wanted to just do something nice for me since we missed valentines day and easter. So, he set up his room with candles and my favourite love song and bought me flowers and a stuffed animal and chocolates and every other thing teenage girls swoon over (i'm a sucker). He (was) a virgin too, and I completely believe him when he says he wasn't expecting to get any that night. But I knew it was time and I knew I was in love. I asked him if we could do it and after 20 minutes of "are you sure...?" we did. It was amazing and completely not what I expected. All moms and teachers say "It will hurt it will be awkward it's not going to be good really" Well I thought those ideas to be completely wrong. It was SPECTACULAR. I have absolutely no regrets, my mom knows, and I still practice safe sex with my bf who I've been dating for almost 7 mos now :)

[sarahhh]

if all you guys are getting horny and stuff
but don't wanna have sex?
just get fingered! come on people!
being HORNY doesnt exactly mean you have
to have sex! lol. just get fingered or something.
i mean seriously, it feels good:) haha,
my boyfriend and i do that all the time.
i mean i do stuff to him too ;) ha, i like him
alottt, but not enough to have sex because
IM NOT READY! lol. he knows that and is okay
with it.
btw i am 15.
but seriously you guys,
there are plenty of alternatives to sex. :)

[McKenzie]

I'm 13, have not had sex, and haven't really even thought about it. Honestly, it was a big thing just to kiss my boyfiend on the CHEEK! :) I don't want to be judgemental, and agree with the many other girls out there who say that sex comes when your ready, (or it should). Actually, I think I will probably wait for a pretty long time. When I was 6 my next door neighbor (who was 13 at the time!!!) tried to get in my pants. Thank god that my Dad called for dinner. Anyways, I didn't, and am very happy.

Anyways, I'm posting this because I want to say something about my cousin. Her name is Julia, she's 16, and is probably the number 1 person I can talk to about anything. She was born out of wedlock, when her mother was 17. She grew up with this boy when she was little, and they were best friends. He ended up moving away. A couple of months later, he ended up coming back to see her again. They ended up kissing, and were about to have it, when she said that she couldn't do it thinking about her mom and the consiquenses that her mom had to deal with, (her real dad ended up leaving). He stopped, kissed her, and that was it. When she's ready, she says that she wants to do it. I am really proud of her, not because she didn't do it, but because she knew she wasn't ready. I also want to say, that I think that kind of person is the type of person you have sex with. One that you know well, loves you, and will respect any descion you want to make.

[Katie Burns]

I wanted to loose my virginity at 12 becuase of influence from my older sister and step-brother. My older sister, Lisa would talk to her friends all night about having these 'amazing' experiences with guys in bed. I was in the room next to her, and being the nosy kid I was, would listen in.
My brother's influence happened one night when i walked into his room to get a PS2 game when him and his girlfriend were on his bed, naked.

On my friends 14th birthday we were at a beach when some of her cousin's friends came. I felt a feeling lke I had not before, my cliterus started swelling. I knew what this meant, and what I wanted. This guy and I strted talking and took a rental boat out onto the lake where we started to make out. While I was sitting on his lap I could feel a bump comming from out of the crotch of his jeans. We quickly went back to the shore and to his car where we made love. It was ah-mazing.

[desiree]

im qOnna be 14 On the 19th. i live in an area where mOst Of the qirls i knOw arent virqins anymOre and theyy are either my aqe Or yOunqer. alsO alOt Of quys i knOw justt wanna have the sex and theyy are like 16 17 qOinq Out and datinq 12 13 year Olds. what thOse girls & quys dO is tOtallyy 11O% their business. butt alOt Of peOple are always surprised tO find Out that im a virqin. && im qladd i am.

[Quita**Boo]

i'm 17 going on 18 in two months..I dont think anyone who is deciding to have sex at the age of 12..13..14..15..16 or whenever it's their buisness and who is any body else to say they are stupid...I lost my virginity when I was 16 to a complete stranger! now that's stupid! I know! but I dont regret it because everything happens for a reason..I didnt want to do it! but all of my friends were so I thought hay why not me...it was in fla on a beach chair LMAO! crazy! I had been driking and smoking weed bein completely inresponsible but it didnt last long bcuz he could see the pain on my face and he quit! i waited till a year later and the next person I had sex with was the love of my life! SO girls do what u want dont let and ingornat person on here dictate what u do with you life...

[Jasmine]

I'm still a virgin, in no hurry to have sex, however... If you think about it, outside the box, what is sex? It's mating( yeah yeah it sounds stupid, but that's what it is) It's so that we can continue reproducing and keep the population growing (not that it's gonna die out any time soon) We've come to think of it as something you only do with someone you love, but scientifically it has nothing to do with it... Point being, it doesn't really matter who or when you loose your "virginity", god knows I'm proud not to have had sex with someone I'd regret losing it too, however It's just sex. It's not everything, it's a biological attraction.

[brittany]

hi my name is brittany, N i just made 17 years old this month.. i guess i'm still proud to tell people dat i'm an VIRGIN...i wrote (virgin) in large caps letters bcuz i'm not embarrassed 2 say it. i actually really think there is nothing bad with people expression their own opinion about SEX... what i'm personally trying 2 say...is dat....we all are different N no one is the same. some percentage of the girls' might think of it bad while the others think of it as something good. however, to me....i just don't think it rights (yet) with all the transmitted diseases that are going around....plus i have 3 older brothers and tons of male cousin's and male friends i'am very close too and over protected i see the ways they treat girls like dogs. don't get me wrong not all boys are the same too, but i see and hear them telling their g/f that they care about them and love them and want to have an family with them. they spend all their time talking to them to make them feel special as if they are the only girl. until that girl give up one thing that is something she is going 2 regret later in life and that having sex with someone u thought u loved. i have seen it happen 2 many of my friends. so i'm trying not 2 end up like them. even tho i had tons of boyfriend over the years i relized i'm very happy 4 not doing anything with them.. that i waiting until i happily married...

[Catiaa]

I'm 17. i am not a virgin. I am kinnda disapointed in myself i have to say, but i cant do anything about it now. but anyways. i did have sex last year with my EX boyfriend when i was 16. we did last for a year and a week. and i was really inlove with him at the time of the decision. and we accualy even wanted to start a family. yeah i know wtf! but at that time i wasnt think clearly the love thing just took over. but we didnt start a family cuz i told him no and the consequences of that decision. but the first time i did have sex it lasted like 4 mins. and i told him to stop. to be honest. i didnt like it at all. it didnt feel like i though it would. but after awhile and getting used to it. it kinnda took over our relationship. what was once real love relationship become sex relationship. i really regret it. and i hate to look back and think about it. when we broke up, i went trough rough times. where i was depressed and i was alone and i didnt know wut to do. i tried to commit suicide and ended up going to the hospital and getting sent to a mental institute (crazzy poeple place). i seriously NEVEER EVERRR though this would have happened to me. i know some people who will read will be like yeah right stop making up stories. but im really not. i wish it was all a dream. i hated my life at that point soo much. being dumped by someone u loved sooo much, given up everything u had for that person. given that first kiss and having sex for the first time with that person. it will stick to u forever. meaning u will never forget that person... but as life goes on, its been 7 months since that whole thing and ive accualy found someone really nice, completely diffrent from my ex and im accualy happy. hes not the kind of person that would really wanna have sex and stuff like that. but hes been a lil naughty lately LMAO! but the thing is we've been dating for a month. so its kinnda early but its not really time that matters. its the feeling u have for that person. but sex dosent really matter to me. but i mean if your really ready to have sex then go for it. just becareful and dont get used by the stupid asshole boys out there, and dont get hurt. cuz a broken heart is hard to put back together. BE SAFE GIRLS! GOOD LUCK!

[Debi]

I was 15 when I lost my virginity. It wasn't my decision, I was actually raped, which I can admit since none of you know me. It is somethign that is really hard to deal with and when I told my fiance I broke down into tears. He understood why I was the way that I was with sex. We talked about what happened to me and he made me feel better about it. When I was ready, my fiance and I had sex. It was the most amazing expierience I had ever had. It was beautiful and natural and amazing. I didn't know that it would change our relationship, but it did, now we're are closer then ever because we have shared that deep, emotional connection with each other. We are getting married November 23, 2013 and we're happier then we've both ever been before.

[bratinella]

My friends and my soon-to-be-boyfriend throw a surprised birthday party.

Sorry typo ;)

[bratinella]

I lost my virginity the night of my birthday. My friends and my soon-to-be boyfriend(back then). It was held in my best friend's hotel and well, after the party we went to my room. Basically we kissed and I mean REALLY kissed. I can't remember how we got on the bed but we did. We started stripping off and I felt his erection. He asked me if I was sure and I totally said yes. It was the most magical night of my life.

That was a year ago and he's still with me now. We have sex everytime our parents our out and there was a time we went to Australia for 2 weeks and had sex every night(there are some where we just wanted to have sex during daytime). I'm 16 now and I'm proud not to be a virgin anymore.

[girlMe.]

sex is a beautiful,natural and wholesome thing.it is only meant to be done with someone you really love a lot and not just with anyone or everyone.it is a symbol of love,something private and personal.

[Emily]

I'm 16, soon to be 17, and I haven't even had my first kiss. And I am a-okay with this. I get horny as hell, but that's okay. I take it as a good sign because I know I'll be able to bring pleasure to my future husband and won't be a frump in the bedroom.

I don't plan on giving my first kiss or virginity to anyone other than the one I know is the one. I'm fully content to wait for him.

In my opinion, having sex at the age of friggin 13 is just plain stupid and irresponsible. You're still just a kid! Really do take the time and ponder over giving yourself to someone you might not even be with in in 5 to 6 months.

What is the point of your wedding night if your rose petals have already been plucked off? Sex is a sacred thing not meant to be tossed around so flippantly as it is right now. But, what can you do with the media controlling the world?

I know most of you won't listen, but please, do think about what you will be giving away. Your decision will most likely shape your entire life.

[briana]

ok hold on. alot of u have very srong opininons about this but that dosent mean u go degradeing otha ppl cuz of there decisions. im 13 and i am am Not a virgin. and i no many of r gonna say that im to young and stuff like that blah bla h blah but i think that u should do it when ur ready. it should b with sum1 u no u love and if ur ready u should b ready for andthing. i am proud to admit that i am not a virgin cuz i was ready and i took into consederation that i could get an std or get pregnant and i was ready for that

[<3]

So yeah i fall in the "done it" catagory (i'm 17) :p i was always like gonna wait till i'm past 18 gonna wait... BUT i've been dating the most wonderful, loving, caring, guy EVER for 3 years and decided "ok i want to" 4 months ago. being horny all the time sucks!

lol btw people who've only done it once, it gets better :) don't fret. first time sex lasted about like 3 minutes before i flipped and said stop (and proff he cares he stopped) and basically just hugged me until i stopped crying and shaking and (i know i'm a spaz) puking.

so yeah totally wait for the right person! and BE SAFE AND HAPPY what ever age you are :)

[rosie]

I'm 13 and I crave it as much as the next person. I'm a virgin, and it will probably stay that way until the time is right and the guy is right. In my parent's eyes, I'm still a little child. They don't know that some of my friends aren't virgins and that i know a lot more than i should thanks to the internet. (blah). I don't want to lose that little child side of me anytime soon. I've had one incident where a guy "liked me" like that. well, more like masturbating on the phone while talking to me. that's what got me thinking. what am i to do if sex ever comes up? i think everyone at my age should think it through. maybe then some 13 year olds wouldnt be pregnant.

[Candace]

My name is Candace. I'm 14 and I am proudly a virign. I just have to say that I agree with the people who said that it dosn't matter about the age,it just matters if you and your "Hun" are BOTH ready. I for one am not ready yet. But I know from others expirence that it is not something to be thrown around. Sex is a wonderful thing that you do when and only when you are ready. If the guy you are with wants it split right now, than he is not worth it. Virginity is a once in a life time oportunity. Once you loose it, its gone forever. And I also just wanted to say that you fellas that are in love, I wish you all the best of luck. But sometimes you feel so sure that your in love and you feel that your ready, and then you have sex with that special person and all of a sudden it dosn't feel like such a great idea. But then its too late. So the basic line here is just be sure that you are ready. And be sure who you are having sex with respects you, and loves your for who you are, and is willing to wait for you. Thanks for hearing me out :) Oh and I also just wanted to say that sex isn't everything in life, there is other things to look forward to, geting a good job and making sure your life is in order, and please DONT drop out of school because you found your "true love" if you want to call it that. Your education is SO important. When your ready to have sex, then and only then should you be willing to do it. You don't owe any guy ANYTHING. And when you are ready and decide to have sex, BE SAFE. If you are not ready to be pregnant USE CONDOMS! Anywayz ill stop typing now lol.. Stay Safe!

[.]

I'm 15 going on sixteen in December. I lost my virginity a year and 5 months ago. and im still with the guy. we've only broke up once and that was only for a weekend. today we have been together for a year and 8 months. i think we have done pretty good. we love each other very much and spend every day together. but dont lose your virginity just because you think your in love with somebody and they keep asking you because if they love you then they will wait until you are ready. and make sure he's not like most guys make sure he is different. honest and trusting. that way theres more of a chance for yall to be together for longer and maybe even forever.

[sweetGIRL]

You know what's funny.. You Amy girl who is "20 years old".. you are probably just jealous of all of these girls who have had a chance to engage in something so great. Everyone makes mistakes, and the first guy isnt always your last. But you know what, You probably have never even had the chance to be in love or even get the chance. Obviously you're such a crank that no guy would even consider you. Get over yourself and stop judging other people, calling them "stupid" HA you're the stupid one. I get if you have "beliefs" but dont put others down because they dont believe the same things. If anything your stupid :) Get over yourself.. you 20-year-old bitch.

[LovettHelena]

oh my god. that stupid hypocrite 20 year old. she calls us stupid...when she says its rude to say that! bitch. and ways...when i was dating my boyfriend...we had always wanted to....yeah. and we never got around to it...but i wanted to alot and then we broke up but...the feeling kind of lingered......why did this happen??

[Kaytlin]

To $$:

I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. I'm still a little self conscious myself. My boyfriend is a little more uneasy though. But with a dark room it shouldn't too bad. ; )

[Girl]

Okay, I'm sixteen and I lost my viginity a few months ago after me & my boyfriend were dating for 6 months. Before I met him I didnt think I wanted to lose my virginity for a while. So, it shows you especially that 20 year old, that it doesn't matter how old you are, it matters who you're with and when you're ready. Love has nothing to do with age. My neighbor started dating her husband when she was 15. Now she's in her 40s with 3 kids. So maybe, you should stop judging people. You're kind of immature for a 20 year old.

[what-was-once-the-virgin-cherry]

I'm 16 now. I lost my virgintiy exactly one month after my birthday. Before I had had sex, I had always thought anybody who had sex was trashy or not in control.

But then I finally found someone who I wanted to have it with.. I wasn't in love with him, though I liked him a lot, and it was great.

We did an on again, off again, kind of relationship.. and now we're officially split.. I really love him. I know that for sure. I mean, I know it's love just as easily I know I love a friend or a family member..

But you know.. there's no harm in waiting. I actually used to brag all the time that I was still a virgin. It was something I was proud of. Now, I don't really have anything to brag about. I can say sex is overrated because I've had it. I used to say it before I even had it, but I had no idea then. I liked the sex we had.. but that's because it was because of who I was with. Just make sure, that when the fire starts burning, that the guy you're having it with can contain it. That he respects you, and that this is what you really want, and it's not just some spike in your hormones. Other than that, just be safe. :/

[$$]

well..here goes,i'm nearly fourteen and
i've been asked to have sex,do this and that
and farest i've gone is make-out.this is
because i'm fuggin scared.i'm not scared to
give head and that but i'm not ready to
go thhe whole nine yards.i'm not fully
developed i guess you could say.and i'm
still waiting because i haven't ever been
in love and i don't wanna waste my virginity
on some boy. + vaginas are ugly;idunno what you
thank but i thank so!dos anybody relate to this
or not?because i feel like i'm the only person
who feels this way.i'm self-concious of my body.and i don't want a guy to see it.

[Frenchie]

Wow, some of you just need to slow down and chill. I'm 14 and I still haven't lost my virginity and don't plan to any time soon. But I won't say if I will or won't wait till after marriage, because you know what? I really don't know. None of us can be 100% sure what we will do. A lot of us think we are seriously in love, but how do we know? It's just a chance, so if someone says something, don't "yell" at them for what they think. You don't know their situation. Some people also may think that getting pregnant or getting an STD is worth the sex, but that is just their opinion. So don't judge people on what you think.

[bri.]

I'm a few months past fifteen. I lost my virginity two weeks after I turned 14 to my first love. We only had sex once, and it was for a short period of time. I didn't have sex again until a year later, with my current boyfriend. At the time, we weren't dating, and I'd only known him for about two weeks. But he'd already been sexually active so it was something he craved, and I was perfectly okay with having sex with him. The day before we did, though, I told him I didn't want that to be the only reason he came around, which he assured me it wasn't. A couple weeks after, we started dating. We've only technically been together for a month and a half, but we have sex regularly. I crave it quite often, and what bothers me is that he calls me a nympho. My response is that I'm a normal person who likes sex, and yeah, I might have a high sex drive. I don't think sex is something to just have with anyone, but personally, it's not something that I'd wait 'til marriage for. I think it's about if you're ready, and if it's what you want. Not about being madly in love or married. It's more of an emotional thing rather than a situational thing.