sparrow's song (part two)

rachel doesn't feel sorry for sparrow. find out why...

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sparrow's song (part one)
sparrow's song (part two)

art & story by:
rachel nabors

Comments

[lashawnh]

i think sparrow is a very good person its judgemental to call her a slut or whore [which ever u wish]. but i think she is goin thur sum dat she needs to realize [and i think she already does] and just think about it. SHE KNOWS WAT TO DO!!>!>>

[veronica]

i think the problem here is that everybody is to close minded. when debating i learn that to be a good debate person you must see every point of perspective and respect that. what i get out of the comic is that every girl must have some sense of worth. and unfortunately this happens often. some girls just depend too much on a guy, they expect to keep them by laying down with them. most of women i taken or aren't seen as something serious neither respected because they accept this kind of behavior from the guy they are going out with. i agree people have the lifestyle they want but at least keep in mind to have some dignity and self-respect. i there are other ways to make a guy love you other then just having sex with them. and if they don't love you or seem not to react then move on, because they don't realize what they are missing.kind of sad, but that's how we all learn, from experience.if things went good then be happy and consider yourself lucky.

[8-)tallymarie(-8]

I feel so sorry for sparrow! I know a girl like this and it is one of the saddest things...I mean...I used to be jealous but this comic made me glad to be a single virgen...you see...i break up with guys when they don't treat me right, i will only go out and sleep with the right guy, someone I KNOW will never leave me. And by the way, bella, I think rachels' point is that ou souldn't just sleep with anyone, and you should only be with guys who treat you right...not that you are a whore if you have sex b4 marriage.

Also...plz ppl stop being so hatin' towards the author of this comic. I hate when ppl get so...overly judgemental just becuz they disagree with a certain opinion or idea! Plz stop!!!

[Eunju8]

Look in general the point is that Sparrow gives and thinks that this will make her feel loved etc. but because of that the guy thinks she has no standards and thus does what he wants and eventually leaves her ( I don't know just guessing). anyway it's just saying you shouldn't do whatever the guy wants to be loved. The point is to have some standards so that the guy respects you and treats you like a person and not some sort of fuck toy. Got it? Besides if you look at other comics with Sparrow she is shallow and what have you and even tries to break Rachel's new boyfriend so it's somewhat expected. Besides this is sadly how some girls think and she's just showing you how SOME girls act. This is just an extreme you know not actual so take a breath and relax :) please.

[@]

What's this with the whole Rachel for abstinance thing? Where did this come from?

[omgitsweetea]

sparrow is just a lost and confused girl
she has to find out what is more to her
love or just bieng used?
and then maybe she wont get hurt.

[elizaborden]

Bella you may have something here. For cripes sake! how the fuck does Rachel know if Sparrow's had sex anyway? if she's had sex with every fucking guy she's dated? what does she stand out the fucking window with a fucking camera and take pictures like a god damned jealous whore?! what the hell is wrong with Rachel?!

[BellaDrake]

why is it in every one of Rachel's stories girls who have sex before marriage are shown as whores? what the fuck? what are they evil because they fucking shown their only human? it seems more like she's acting like a fucking Feminazi than anything else. for crying out loud she's making sparrow evil so that she seems like the 'innocent,pure and sweet' character in her fucking lame ass stories.

[Jaqui]

Okay, as far as people wanting this to have a happy ending, Rachel-Sama's right--it's not gonna have one, because girls like Sparrow rarely change. I mean, I know a few might, but it's sad but true--....and I hope Sparrow really changes her way. Like, she needs to be independant and say "HEY WORLD, I DON'T NEED A MAN TO MAKE ME HAPPY!"

LOL!

[arielle]

I'm not calling no one that does this a slut but in this case i have to say that sparrow is a dirty whore. I'm only saying that because she is staying with a guy that only wants her for sex and he isn't ready for a committed relationship shes dumb 2 who in there right mind would do that would you i don't think so!!she wants to have a title with him but the more she has sex with him the more hes not going to want to put a title on their relationship. now he only sees sparrow as pretty much a booty call (lol)but its a great comic and I totally understand it! THX RACHEL!!!!!

[Christina]

for all those people who read this and think someone is a whore for siding with sparrow, or those people who are offended for rachel being "against sex" here is something to think about. first off the Sparrow thing, i do feel sorry for her and I am far from a whore or slut since the one I lost it to is also the one i am going to marry (there is a date AND a ring on my finger). She has low self esteem, and girls who do have sex with no official title do it in the hopes that something will happen (like sparrow in the comic). i am not saying it is right and that is where rachel comes in. She is sending the CLEAR message that you need to treat your body like a temple or treat your body with respect. Because if you don't there is the chance of geting an STD or getting pregnant not knowing who the father is or the father not wanting anything to do with you or the baby. Or simply having your heart broken when it never had to be in the first place. Opening your heart out like that is dangerious and you need to be careful who you open it too.

[Jimmy_cudo]

wow, sad comic but that's what you get when you just give yourself to guys so easily without both being clear about what the "relationship" is or is not.

[Rosieee]

this is a sad comment strip
touching really

[Adamant1]

Actually, people like sparrow can be just as hurtful to guys. One of my friends found a girl like sparrow, and actually did fall for her. They banged a whole lot, and confessed their love to each other in front of everybody fairly constantly. When she moved on to college she broke it off and my bro was left hanging. I suppose ironically in this story sparrow is actually a "nice girl", had she of found somebody like my friend Jon those two idiots'd probably still be together.

[melanie]

look Sparroew is really feeling lonely if you want love that bad SEX IS NOT THE ANSWER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if sparrow reallly wants love she can find it somewhere else

[hghg]

SPARROW IS A FREAKING WHORE ALL U WHORES R MAD CUZ URE A WHORE AND NOW U LOOK AT WHAT U R!! NEVERMIND LET ME LEAVE U WHORES ALONE SO U CAN HAVE SEX WITH A HOBO U DONT EVEN KNOW!

[Laralee]

Part of me loves Rachael's comics for the beautiful artwork and engaging dialogue. But what is her problem with sex?!

Rachael- sex is natural. Sex happens. I lost my virginity as a teen and nothing bad happened. Sparrow is a normal human being. Normal human beings ENGAGE in sex, they don't DEPRIVE themselves of it.

Yes, having multiple partners can be risky if not done taking proper precautions. And yes, Sparrow can be shallow.

But as a sexually active female I feel that your comics are hurtful and judgemental of all sexually active people. Not all relationships that involve sex occur between an uncaring, shallow male and a needy, slutty girl.

You act so high and mighty because you're a virgin. I used to be like that, too, so I understand. However, once I had sex I realized that it's not that big of a deal at all. It won't scar you emotionally and it doesn't make you any better or worse than anyone else.

GIVE SPARROW (and all other sexually active unmarried people) A BREAK!

[samaraspaz]

Don't listen Rachel. This comic is absolutly right. If girls like Sparrow and my stupid slut-of-a-former-roomate is going to fall for every guy that give them what they want just so they can f**k her, I'm done feeling sorry for them! As for friends with benefits goes, why have them? You eventually regret everything and as far as I go, the thought of having sex with my closest guy friend makes me throw up a little every time!

[lost]

it made me really depressed thanx GURL.COM!!!!!!!!!!

[Raya]

That was actually pretty funny! She's a sparrow! True to her name. Thats awesome.
Rachel is hella cool and is right for pointing out that Sparrow is acting dumb!
I don't want to put a label on things?
Your body IS your temple and people should worship it as well as yourself!

[Tara]

SPARROW IS A SLUT! OMG! I HATE THIS! SPARROW IS HAVING A BUNCH OF SEX WITH A GUY WHO'S NOT EVEN A BOYFRIEND, OR FRIEND WITH BENEFITS? OH MY GOD!!!! I CAN'T STAND THAT KIND OF SLUT! OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD!!!! UGH!!! THIS HAS MADE ME SO ANGRY!!! IT'S NOT THE FACT SPARROW IS DESPERATE, IT'S THE FACT THAT SPARROW IS BEING SUCH A SLUTTY WHORE THAT SHE IS SLEEPING WITH A BOY SHE BARELY KNOWS!

[Elizabeth !!!!!!!]

THE ENDING SUCKED !!!! PLEASE BE A PART 3!!!

[aA>>>Aa]

i think that if you can you should tell ppl they'er being used and to move on...it hurts but some ppl can never change and you need to be carefull who you with and whats REAL or FLAKE

[Julia]

Sadly, I have a friend like this. It kind of sucks because she flaunts who she sleeps with and a lot of our friends have very little respect for her. I feel bad, but it seems pretty manipulative when she does it, brags about it, and then complains later when people say something, or treat her like trash. I really hope she will eventually learn. I'd send the comic to her but she might get pissed.

[nyny]

She's a booty call.

[Ralily]

oooh!!!!!
this is one of those comics that make people have serious conversations. so many girls have such DIFFERENT (sorry i wrote in caps 2 make this post stand out.hehe) anyways, sch different views on life. the ones who support sparrow probably went through her situation or are very understanding people. but i feel bad for sparrow because she doesn't seem to understand that what Rachel's shirt says is right. her body IS a temple and she should treat it accordingly. not judging her too much, because 'she' (pretending she is a real person) might not have grown up with a family with the same views as Rachel or she just might be one of those girls who believes 'that if they give him what he wants he'll love her'. well he should love her before she dishes it out. i bet thats all Rachel is pointing out, unless they are frenimies and she is in the comic as a meanie....but i like Rachel's views. she sounds like a feminist.

[ohh-yeaah-i-went-there!]

blah blah blah blah .. "rachel is such a bitch for being so quick to judge"

YOU WANNA KNOW WHAT I HAVE TO SAY!!

THE TRUTH HURTS!

if you're a slut, then your a slut.
how can you guys respect someone that can't respect themselves?

think about that...

[GiGi]

Why are people so fast to judge? Either sparrow in the comic is a poor girl struggling with her feelings and rachel a self righteous judgmamental girl, or sparrow is an "easy" girl and rachel a heroine for pointing it out. I dont think either way. Remeber, thought, in the comic they are soposed to be enemies. I woudnt be that judgemental on a friend. But I think that girls like that need to talk with their boyfriends or move on. "No labels" is not usually a good sign.

[Sam!]

I don't know. I hafta be really close with a guy before i can even make out with him. So in my relationships, it's always boy/girlfriend before anything happens. But maybe I could actually do the friends with benefits but only because I have close guy friends.

[hot head]

racjel has clearly never been in a situation like sparrow's otherwise she wudnt b so quick 2 judge.it can be very painfull and confusing knowing that your being used but wanting that person so much it's self distructive
women need 2 sticke together and help each other when a nasty misogynist comes along not turn the victim into a vilified 'whore' who's just being 'attention seeking'
it can be annoying when a freind places themselves into a bad situation constantly but i think im right in saying that all of us do it sometimes and would lyk the support of our freinds when we're in the same situation
i wud hate 2 b rachel's freind if she was such a self-righteous bitch about very mistake i made

[trippy_gypsy]

I'm finding it hard to be sorry for her. "OMG if i have sex with guys they will buy me things because sex is not a sacred act it is money." Whore. Also, the "SUMM3R ALL TH3 TiiME OMG" remark demoted her to "scum" status in my eyes.

[Samm]

Sparrow is so dumb! i have a dumb friend like that. i try to tell her that all the guys she dates are big *BEEP* heads, but she never listens to me and always ends up dumped after they get some outta her. then she comes crying to me again, i don't feel bad for her and i don't care what anyone thinks.

[Terra]

I read a book that had this same subject. It was a girl named Vanessa who was in love with a guy named Trevor. The only nice thing he ever said to her was "You look cute with your clothes off". Can you believe that? Ugh... barf. I kind feel sorry for her because that's the onmly kind of guy she can attract. FOR GOD'S SAKE, NICE, SWEET, RESPECTFUL GUYS ARE'T ATTRACTED BY BIG BOOBS AND SEX!!! WHY WOULD YOU EVEN WANT A GUY LIKE THAT????? HE'D BE CHECKING OUT EVERY OTHER GIRL ALL THE TIME!!!!!!
*huff huff* Okay... I've had my rant... Im done.

[Astrid]

You know what? I think Rachel is very narrow minded in this most recent comic. She cannot see past the black and white mind set. Sure, it is true that it is in a guy's nature to sleep with as many attractive women as possible and not give a damn but, it is not true for every guy. And how could she call Sparrow desperate like that? That isn't really a fair judgement. My fiance and I started out as friend's, then went to friend's with benifits, and now we are planning on being with eachother for the rest of our lives. I think if Rachel could see that things sometimes start out that way, she would not judge so harshly. Yes, my fiance and I have known eachother for most of our lives so, I guess you could my situation was alittle differen't from Sparrow's. By the way, some guys want to be in relationships but, are afraid of rejection or something bad coming out of it and I think that's why some guys want friends with benifits at first. It isn't a bad thing. You just have to be careful. My guy brags to everyone now who will listen to him about how great it is to me with me.
So, in conclusion. Rachel shouldn't be so pig-headed and harsh. It shows immaturity to do so.

[Cece]

Wow. That was the most unpleasant, self-righteous, nauseatingly judgmental thing I have read in a long time. Poor Sparrow wants love... and is OK with having sex... and for this she is a "slut?" Wow. That makes about as much sense as a monkey f*cking a coconut.

[amber]

i think thatthe part one was the best but th e second part was so retarted

[Kat]

I think the ending was terrible.

Sparrow is a human being going through human problems.

Rachel, the protagonist, is being judgmental and condescending.

Relationships are rarely simple - you are really, really lucky if you find one that is.

Instead of showing that it is human to make mistakes, Rachel keeps talking about how much better she is than the poor girl who isn't getting the love EVERY. GIRL. DESERVES.

[Eileen]

i feel sorry for sparrow actually... i mean im kinda in her shoes right now.
well i know what im doing is actually stupid but i cant help myself when i see his calls or messages.

HELP!!

[Laura]

I don't know about anyone else but I'm getting seriously sick of how self-righteous Rachel is.

I had sex in high school and I turned out just fine. Sparrow's learning a painful lesson that EVERYONE must learn eventually, in their own way, at some point - she's given part of herself to someone who doesn't value it, but that speaks more to her own self-esteem issues than it does to how TOTALLY EVIL she is. She's a confused girl who's hurting and there's nothing wrong with that - teenagehood is a TIME to be confused and hurting, a time to learn those painful lessons and sort yourself out.

Rachel clearly thinks a lot of herself - she does an entire series of comic books all about how great she is, for god's sake - but this takes the cake. Are we supposed to identify with her self-righteous, frankly bitchy condemnation of another girl who's hurting? Who is the protagonist in this story, anyway? Because I sure don't feel much for Rachel. What did Sparrow ever do to her, other than disagree with her about sex and global warming? Wow, that Sparrow, she sure is a BITCH. How dare she choose to live differently than Rachel.

While Rachel sits way up on her high horse, not letting anyone near her because she's "saving herself" and insulting the only person who appears to be able to put up with her on a regular basis besides her cat (who is dependant on her for food) - Sparrow - said other person is taking real risks that real people take, making mistakes and letting herself be vulnerable. She's a MUCH more realistic and sympathetic character than Rachel, who acts like not having sex makes her the wisest, most worldly person ever (even though she's presumably in her late teens and has only ever done her own laundry once, as we saw in another comic).

That Rachel is too afraid of compromising her precious righteous attitude to even show a GLIMMER of compassion to Sparrow doesn't do a thing to convince me that Sparrow is foolish and evil. It does prove to me that RACHEL is foolish, short-sighted, weak, jealous, petty, and cruel on top of it all.

This is supposed to be a role model for teen girls? What a crock!

[Mindy]

I am currently in Sparrows situation right now. I read this and everything matched my life word for word. I cant believe it. It opened my eyes a little wider. Thanks!!! And everyone comments have helped as well!

[ladybuglover]

I was exactly like Sparrow at one point...hoping and praying that if I gave him everything he wanted he would fall in love with me like i had fallen in love with him. it just ended in even more heartache then i deserved. I learned that if he cant find love for you, he is simply using you. i stopped being used &moved on. With many more experiences came more heartache but now at least i can honestly say, I've found the strength inside to love myself. He still doesn't love me, but I now realize that i don't love him (or need him) either.

[Jorly]

Dude This Is A Fucking Comic!!!!! Everyone Can Express Themselves And Their Thoughts How Ever They Feel They Should. For Rachel This Is IT And If She Wants To Creat A Talking Shit On A Stick Then Let It Be It's Her Way Of Expression. Oh And For Whom Ever Doesn't Like Her Comics Stop Reading Them Because It's Stupid How You Go Reading All Of Her Comics To Then Talk Shit. WTF!!! Anyways It Was Great. Love It Rachel!!!!

[PoisonGirl]

Rachel has hit the spot with this comic. and i say this as a girl who's been in sparrow's place. while i didn't sleep with random guys, i came very close to doing so, because i was so lonely and i took whatever attention i could get. I would burst into drunken tears after making out with any random guy, and my "friends" never once realized something was wrong, they just chalked it up to the alcohol. And even though all the signs were there that i was not okay with myself and what i was doing, no one took the time to notice, no one really cared.

Until one day i got sick of it. i got sick and tired of girls automatically thinking *slut* the second they looked at me. i got sick and tired of guys automatically thinking *easy f*ck* the second they looked at me. because that's not the kind of person i am, at all. and i was so frustrated, because i couldn't get that message across, that i wanted to be taken seriously.

then i realized that i was the problem. this is real life. my knight in shining armour wasn't gonna come along and save me from myself. i met someone who i thought would do just that, but thankfully i opened my eyes on time to realize that he was a bigger jackass than every other guy i'd met before, and had i not come to this realization when i did he would've dragged me down and destroyed me even more than i had already destroyed myself. no random stranger was gonna come and save me out of the goodness of his heart. because, as previously stated, this is not a fairy tale, it's real life.

so i changed. i stopped going to parties with people who did nothing but judge me. i stopped giving people the opportunity to shove stereotypes at me. i stopped dressing like a skank (because, now that i think back, that's exactly the impression i was making), i stopped kissing whatever guy leaned his head into my near vicinity...i stopped all the behaviour that was killing me slowly.

and i healed. sure, now guys barely approach me anymore. that doesn't mean i don't get any admiring glances and stares. i still do ;) but they don't approach me because i don't look easy. this way i know that now when a guy approaches me it's because he's genuinely interested in who i am as a person, not my body alone. i started respecting myself, and as a result people now respect me too.

so all you girls out there going through what i went through or going through worse things, stop feeling sorry for yourselves and act! you have the power to change things. stop waiting for your knight in shining armour. only you can save yourselves. so quit the vicious cycle and help yourselves, otherwise no one else is gonna help you.

[chewie]

lol that was funny how the cat covered what rachel had to say on page 10. and i completely agree with rachel, no one should pity sparrow for the choices she made. girls at my school are like that and its obvious that they crave attention and they get it from the wrong guys that don't want anything from them but sex.

[Johnenne]

Acutally I thought it was beautiful the way you compared Sparrow to an actual Sparrow you have a way with words Rachel!

[Stella]

I truly expected mroe from Racheal...
I mean one minute your all on Sparrow.. next your on Birds - wtf?!

It would've been nice for Sparrow to decide things for herself. I totally agree with 'the girl' with her comment:--

Frankly I expected a little more from you Rachel. Part one was lovely, really capturing Sparrow and the fact that she does have more under what you portray as a shallow shell.

But then to just zoom out and allow Sparrow (who suddenly takes on a new dimension) to be bashed this rashly made the entire comic seem unsincere. Maybe it was the fact that you doomed her, and made sex seem like the culprit.

I guess this comic just would have hit home better if somehow Sparrow would have come to the conclusion herself.

I love your comics, but I feel that you're stopping your characters from sufficiently evolving.

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But it's your comic... keep doing what you do. I doubt theres a part 3 to this...
The first comic was moving, the second was an all of a sudden 'Let's all forget Sparrow and blast her!' type of thing...
and yeah... ..

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[Lizz]

Yes, it is ridiculous that some girls have numerous boyfriends in the brevity of our high school years. i believe they shouldn't sleep with guys either because it is NOT love. It may seem like it but it isn't. I don't think the girls who have tons of boyfriends and dates don't really have honest and deep feelings for their former mate. Then again, they might be dating so many people because deep down they are insecure. They feel no worth in themselves and feel that they need a man to complete them. Yet, in the end, the turn out leaves them feeling empty and they need more. In turn, they go and find another man who is willing to get into their pants or show them "love". What a sick world this is.

[Tatiana]

it's amazing, how us girls have so many different perspectives on life. No we not all be in this situation, but some girls are, and they need us as support. Not to be judged, but even though we may not agree, that doesn't deny the fact that we can support them into other, more intelligent, safer directions. so stop beating them down even though it's a fiction comic, to some-it's real. let's work together as sisters and figure out a way to kill this stitch. all the gurls in the world say-...

great job 'sparrow'. great story! :)

[DEBORAH]

dont wory i am the same my life is like your and i dont now what to do cuz it hurts they just us for sex that all and guys are stuped they dont think i just h